So you’ve lost your identity. You’ve hit the “What the hell am I doing with my life?” wall at full speed. You used to be someone, Police Officer, Soldier, Paramedic, Hero, Insert-So-Called-Important-Title-Here. Now you’re standing in front of the fridge in your underwear at 2 a.m., wondering if leftover lasagna counts as breakfast and contemplating if it’s normal to cry during car insurance ads.
Welcome to the existential meltdown.
But don’t worry, you’re not alone. You’ve got company: The three freeloaders who live in your head rent-free: Id, Ego, and Superego. The Holy Trinity of Mental Chaos.
Let’s examine how each of these inner maniacs handles the “I’ve lost my identity” issue.
The Id: Your Inner Caveman With a Megaphone
The Id is the most primitive part of you. It doesn’t care about meaning, purpose, or whether you’ve met your potential. The id wants one thing: Now. Pleasure, food, sex, naps, Netflix, doomscrolling—whatever gets dopamine pumping.
Identity Crisis According to the Id:
“You’re sad? Eat an entire pizza. Masturbate. Rage scream into a pillow. Or better yet—start a bar fight with your reflection.”
The id doesn’t care that you’re a spiritually bankrupt husk trying to find yourself; it’s just pissed you’re not feeding it carbs or adrenaline like you used to. You used to jump out of helicopters or respond to triple-zero calls. Now you’re folding laundry and googling “how to reinvent myself.”
The id is offended.
The Ego: The Panicked Middle Manager
Ah, the Ego. The part of you that tries to keep the peace between the raging toddler (id) and the sanctimonious life coach (Superego). It’s the part of you that knows your bank PIN, drives your car, updates your CV, and asks, “Do I look fat in this existential crisis?”
Identity Crisis According to the Ego:
“Holy shit. We don’t do anything anymore. What do we tell people at BBQs? That we’re on a ‘soul journey’? We need a LinkedIn update, STAT.”
When you lose your identity, the Ego loses its favourite thing: clarity and control. It can’t introduce itself at parties anymore. It’s got no script, no uniform, no role, just awkward silence and sweaty palms.
The Ego is the one writing your midlife crisis resume:
- “2010–2025: Destroyed myself for external validation.”
- “2026: Learning how to breathe again.”
It’s not handling this well.
The Superego: Your Inner Judgy Nun
The Superego is the internalised voice of all the people who ever told you to behave, suck it up, try harder, and smile while doing it. Think: your parents, your commanding officer, society, your Year 9 teacher, and probably your last ex.
It’s obsessed with rules, morals, and “being a good person,” whatever that means. It holds the clipboard while the Ego has a panic attack.
Identity Crisis According to the Superego:
“You lazy, ungrateful disgrace. You used to matter. Now you’re just a yoga-pants-wearing burnout drinking oat milk and ‘journaling’.”
The Superego doesn’t understand grief or trauma. It just knows you’re not living up to its impossible standards. It wants you to get your shit together yesterday and stop making everyone uncomfortable with your feelings.
It’s basically guilt in a trench coat.
So Who’s Actually Suffering Here?
Let’s be clear:
- The Id is pissed there’s no more adrenaline and dopamine.
- The Superego is furious that you’re not performing.
- But the Ego, that poor bastard, is the one bleeding out in the parking lot of your psyche, whispering,
“I don’t know who I am anymore…”
This is the moment where the Ego either reinvents itself or doubles down on pretending everything’s fine.
Let it fall apart.
The Rebuild Begins…
Here’s the cosmic joke: losing your identity is exactly what your ego needs. Why? Because it was never really you, just a Frankenstein of job titles, achievements, opinions, and survival strategies.
When the Ego is forced to admit it doesn’t know who you are anymore, that’s not a crisis.
That’s liberation.
It means you get to build something real this time.
Without performance. Without pretence. Without approval.
Just you, your weird little values, and a dream to feel whole again.
Final Thought: Let Them All Scream
Let the id pout. Let the Superego wag its bony finger. And let the Ego cry it out in the corner.
Because after the dust settles, you’ll start hearing a quieter voice. Not your job. Not your pain, misery, or distress. Not your title.
You.
That’s the one worth listening to.